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The Foolishness of Asking 'Anybody want to dance?' to Three Women

Sometimes you have to make a fool of yourself to become wiser. We will all go through life looking foolish at some point, it is just important to learn from the experience. Here is a story about how I made a fool of myself in front of some women and what I learned from it. I was at a bar, having some drinks and was feeling pretty good. Earlier, my friend and I had chatted to a group of three friendly girls. I wanted to dance and was feeling pretty brave so I went up to these three girls and asked, "Anybody want to dance?". Ouch, what a terrible line. The question itself rightly annoyed these girls and they barely had the energy or interest to say 'no'. Even if these girls were interested, what were they supposed to say, "Oh, pick me, pick me please!". I had good intentions and was tring to be polite but I was not specific. I should have gone up to the girl I liked the most and asked her if she wanted to dance. Floating out a general question like that in front of three girls to see if anyone is intersted is foolish no matter how well intentionned it might be.

Understanding a Woman's Body Language

It is very important to notice and understand a woman's body language, gestures and other non-verbal communication when you first meet or start dating. A woman's body will tell you many things she isn't saying and this will let you know how she is feeling about you. A woman's non-verbal communication can be broken down into the following areas: body language, acts of grooming, nervous energy, touching and mimicking. Body Language Body language will tell you how open a woman is to you - interested women display open body language. Open body language starts with a face that is animated, expressive or engaging and an easy, natural smile. A big smile which shows teeth is a good first sign. An open and inviting face should be matched by an open body stance in which she faces you squarely with her shoulders parallel to yours, toes pointing to you, with her eyes looking into your eyes. An open body stance visibly shows that she is interested and comfortable. If a woman leans squarely in to you and then looks into your eyes, this is even better. The longer the gaze, the more interested she is. Other signs of an open body position include open palms where you can see the inside of her hands and wrists. A more overt woman may even stick out her chest or accentuate other body parts by stance or posture. Women also secretly show their interest by lips that are slightly opened when you first meet, by shrugging shoulders which shows they are harmless or that they give

How to Get Close To a Woman

You are out on a date with a woman who you think may be interested in you but you are not sure. You might be standing or sitting beside her but how do you bridge that last two feet to see if she is interested in taking things one step further. Do you reach out for a kiss when the moment is right? No, there is an easy and harmless way to see if she is interested - reach out and hold her hand when the moment is right. If she lets you hold her hand, she will also let you kiss her. If her hand shoots away when you reached out for it, you suffer no harm or embarrassment and you know she is not interested. Reaching out for a woman's hand can be done when you are sitting beside her, walking with her or when you are having dinner. Holding a woman's hand is a risk-free way of finding out if she will let you get closer to her.

If You Like Bars, Go To Packed Bars to Meet Women

If you are they type that is comfortable meeting women at bars, definitley seek out bars that are packed. Bars that are packed and very crowded make the introduction process much easier. In a very crowded bar, you are physically much closer to the women - you notice them and they notice you. Being so close, you often literally bump into them or brush up against them by accident and a conversation starts from that. If you do see someone you like, being close makes it much easier to go up and say something to get things started. Compare this sitting down at a table or a booth in a not-so crowded bar. There is a lot of space to overcome just to start a conversation with a woman. Seek out the bars with little elbow room and you will see your connections go way up.

Give the Ladies Some Time

So you are at restaurant with your friend. Two pretty girls come in and sit at the table beside you. What should you do? Smile and start chatting them up? The answer is 'No, not right away'. Smile and acknowledge them but then go back to talking to your friend. Starting up a conversation right away tells them you are desperate. Give them a few minutes to see that you and your friend are regular human beings. If they see you have a life beyond stalking women, they are more likely to be interested. Laugh and have fun as you would without them, that makes you much more appealing when the conversation does start.

The Best 'Pickup' Line Ever

This 'pickup' line works for me every time. If you see a girl you want to talk to, go up to her, smile, put out your hand and say: "Hello, my name is ...". She will always respond by shaking your hand and telling you her name. It certainly takes courage to do this and she will notice your bravery. So what next after this smooth introduction? Simple things like, "How is your day going?" or "Are you having a good time?" Make her feel comfortable and get her talking. Sometimes, when I have felt really brave, I have added, "I saw you over here and justed wanted to say 'hi'". If she is feeling brave she might ask, "So why did you want to come and say 'hi' to me?" If things are going well I respond with "Because you're are so cute..."